Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Therapy in Calgary

Do you feel like your emotions control you?

• Have you been told you’re too much or too dramatic?

• Are your relationships full of conflict and extremes?

• Do you feel empty inside and unsure of who you are?

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can feel like being on an emotional rollercoaster you didn’t buy a ticket for. Your feelings may swing from deep connection to overwhelming fear of rejection in seconds. You might find yourself reacting intensely to things others seem to handle easily like a comment, a delay, or a shift in tone.

If you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive,” “dramatic,” or “hard to be around,” it can leave you feeling ashamed, misunderstood, or unlovable. But what’s really happening isn’t about being “too much.” It’s about having a nervous system that learned to protect you through deep emotional sensitivity; often shaped by early experiences of invalidation, trauma, or instability.

Therapy can help you understand these patterns, reduce emotional intensity, and begin to experience a sense of stability and peace in your relationships and within yourself.

Borderline Personality Disorder is treatable

Therapy provides a safe space where you can begin to understand your brain, untangle intense emotions, build emotional regulation skills, and develop a more stable sense of self. Through the process, you’ll learn to:

• Accept your brain and understand how it works 

• Understand and regulate emotions without suppressing them

• Reduce impulsive reactions and develop self-soothing tools

• Recognize and change unhelpful relationship patterns

• Heal shame and self-blame, replacing them with compassion and understanding

• Develop mindfulness and distress tolerance skills to help you stay grounded even in moments of crisis

Over time, you can learn to respond rather than react — to feel your emotions fully, without letting them take over.

How Redesigning Mental Health Helps Clients Living with BPD

We specialize in working with individuals who experience emotional intensity, relational difficulties, and the pain of feeling misunderstood. Our approach draws from:

• Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT): A gold-standard, evidence-based approach for BPD focused on emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness.
  
  

• Trauma-Informed Practice: Understanding that emotional sensitivity and reactivity often develop as protective responses to past hurt or invalidation.
  
  

• Compassion-Based and Somatic Approaches: Inspired by Gabor Maté’s work on trauma and self-compassion we understand the importance of self-validation and practicing a non-judgemental stance with oneself. We combine this with a bottom-up strategy to help you connect your emotions with your bodily experience.

Our sessions are collaborative, validating, and empowering. We pride ourselves on meeting you with warmth and non-judgment, helping you build insight and practical strategies for change while honouring your lived experience.

What a Life Worth Living Can Look Like

Recovering from BPD doesn’t mean you stop feeling deeply. It means you learn to get into the driver’s seat and put your emotions in the back seat where they no longer control your life. Clients often share that over time, they:

Experience more stable moods and relationships

Develop a sense of who they are

Trust themselves to handle difficult feelings

Set healthy boundaries without guilt or fear
Feel less dependent on others for validation
Begin to see themselves with compassion, rather than shame

Recovery is absolutely possible. With support, practice, and patience, you can learn to live with emotional depth and emotional stability. In your first sessions, we will focus on building a trusting relationship and understanding your story. Together we will identify patterns that keep you stuck and specific behaviors that get in the way of living your life. As therapy continues, you’ll learn DBT skills to navigate emotional storms, tolerate distress, and communicate more effectively with others. Over time, you’ll begin to see that your emotions are signals, not enemies, and that you can trust yourself to respond in an effective manner

Therapy with Redesigning Mental Health is practical, compassionate, and focused on real progress; all at your own pace.

For Loved Ones Supporting Someone with BPD

If you care about someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder, you may sometimes feel helpless, confused, or unsure how to respond when emotions run high. You’re not alone in that.

We also help friends and family members understand BPD from a compassionate, trauma-informed lens. This may include learning how to set healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, and support recovery without losing themselves in the process. When someone with BPD is learning DBT skills and new ways of being in the world, it is incredibly helpful when those around them understand these skills and can “speak the DBT language” as well. Recovery often happens not just for individuals, but within relationships too.

Begin your life worth living today